Gah!

Three nights back in SecondLife (SL) and I'm once again baffled as to WHY people insist on SLexing and/or engaging in SL relationships that may or may not extend to real life (RL). I'm especially astounded by the number of seemingly average looking or even attractive people who spend their time pursuing "love" or "sex" in SL when they should and could be out having RL love or sexual relationships. What's up with that? When I was single I was never lonely for companionship. Granted, I was uber hot, but still :D Don't people go out anymore? Don't people meet other people just being wherever they happen to be? And what's with the married guys with small children who practice serial cheating with single women who should be out in RL with single guys? What the hell is wrong with these girls? Why do these women degrade themselves by SLexing via text/voice and showing photos of themselves doing "stuff" or even camming for these guys???!!! And...What's with the people who actually encourage married men or women with families to pop on pose balls with every avi in SL and/or develop a "relationship" with them? I don't care what problems you have in your marriage, do something about it. Either fix the relationship or get out of it. Divorce is legal. If your religious or cultural beliefs don't permit you to divorce, then work on your marriage and try to correct the problems. Where are people's morals??? Yes, people fall in love. It happens. And I'm talking REAL love, not delusional infatuation or wishful fantasy obsession. Sadly, these latter types are the most prevalent in SL, from what I've seen. Regardless...If you do fall in love in SL, chances are it's not going to work out if one or both of you is married or has a family. And when it falls apart - because it has to unless both of you handle it appropriately - the repercussions will be hell. Wise up, people.

And! What on earth is up with the avi Facebook pages?? I mean really? Really??? Do these adults not see how silly that is? Maybe these people are just really juvenile, or maybe they're just deeply disturbed and need psychiatric help. Maybe it's both. One thing's certain...There is something very, very wrong with them.

Below, I've shared some thoughts that were once posted in my SL profile. At the time, I was on a mission to try to smack some sense into anyone who happened upon my profile or intentionally looked at it. There were people who actually told me reading it helped them. I'm glad if it did. Also included here are links to pages on
gaming addictions (most specific to SL) because there are some very profound comments posted to them that demonstrate how "virtual" relationships/sex addictions can impact people's lives.

Bottom line: Respect and don't hurt others. Respect and don't hurt yourself. Have some decency.

The following have been abstracted from the old profile:

• Engage in real relationships, real sex, real love, and real life.
• If you're spending more time here than with your RL family and friends, you have a serious problem. Log out and live your RL--before you lose it.
• As in RL, you never know the impact you might have on someone. Good or bad. Please do your best to make it good.
• Again, as in RL, some here will tell you what you want to hear to deceive you for their own selfish aims. Don't let a fantasy or an illusion possess, consume, or deceive you. Don't delude yourself or fool others... It only results in heartache and pain.
• Beware of the self-absorbed attention whores here who only seek you out for their own self interests. They collect people. It's what makes them feel valid--because in their real lives they have no power, no control, no love, no nothing. SL is the only place they think they have power or control. They're LOSERS in RL and don't care who they hurt in pursuing their "fantasies" or their "game" here. They do NOT care about you.
• SL may be a place where anything is possible, but that shouldn't be at the expense of another person. Be nice, have fun. But any fun that hurts another person or you isn't the right kind of fun. What does that mean? Don't f*ck with people's emotions. Don't f*ck with people's heads. Don't f*ck with people's hearts. Don't "f*ck" or f*ck with people just because you want to feel good about yourself. Don't f*ck with people just because YOU want to have "fun".

Abstracted from my current profile because it's necessary to state, unfortunately:

• NOT interested in your pixel prowess, an OOC/IC relationship, your RL, or your avi's(!?) Facebook. Fun and  RP sex with an RP purpose is fine, but don't use it as an excuse for sex/porn. If you do, then you really need to get out more.
• NO tolerance for assholes who are here only for sex and/or to practice serial cheating on their spouses/SOs with other pathetic assholes. Get your head out of your ass and fix your RL.

Links (as discussed above):

http://hubpages.com/hub/SecondLife-addiction
http://www.olganon.org/?q=node/14708
http://drickenbacker.wordpress.com/2009/06/22/the-slunkie-factor-part-i-getting-hooked/
http://www.emotionalwellbeingblog.com/2007/08/is-second-life-ultimate-cyber-addiction.html
http://nwn.blogs.com/nwn/2009/07/rickenbacker-addiction.html